If most OB/GYNs were Catholic already, I would not consider the specialty. I certainly enjoyed my OB rotation, but I also enjoyed other specialiteis just as much. Therefore, why not do a specialty that would allow me to spend more time with my my wife and children? Do you think that a Catholic OB/GYN could help women, marriages, and families in a significantly different way than a standard OB/GYN? Is a Catholic OB/GYN that big of a deal and worth all the extra time, effort, and controversy? Do you think by being a Catholic OB/GYN, I could lead more souls to Heaven? Are these questions too spiritual? Should I be focused more on the medicine, my interest in various specialties, and traditional decision making for most medical students?
|"The Dedication" by Edmund Blair Leighton|
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Your vocation is the way God made for you to become a saint. Your vocation is that of a husband and father, and this will always come before medicine. Your first responsibility is to the salvation of your soul, followed closely by your wife's and your children's. If you save a hundred souls by being a Catholic OB/GYN but aren't available to your family, what good is that?
Most OB/GYNs aren't Catholic, pro-life, or pro-NFP. It is generous for any Catholic medical student to consider the need for more Catholic OB/GYNs, just like it's generous that young men consider the priesthood even if they end up called to marriage. God is so grateful for your generosity. But the existence of a need does not mean you have to meet it. Your family's needs come first. OB/GYN residency is 75 hours a week, on average, and sometimes you're at work for twelve or twenty days in a row.
This calls for careful discernment and a well-trained spiritual director can help open the doors to God's light.